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Hummingbird Parents
July 7, 2015
Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.
-Andy Rooney

"The capacity for being resilient abides in each of us, but whether it comes to the fore depends on a child's own nature, their upbringing, and education," observes Joan Almon in the Community Playthings booklet, The Wisdom of Play. "In the United States, there is concern that today's children are growing up without enough resiliency to meet the demands that will face them in life. Some children receive too little nurture, and struggle to find their footing in life. Others have been cosseted and over-protected. They have been praised and rewarded for the most common accomplishments, and protected from risk and failure. There is concern that they will not have the grit and determination to survive life's challenges or the inner strength to transform these challenges into opportunities for growth.

"Out of these concerns comes a new image, instead of 'helicopter parents,' who swoop in at the slightest hint of a problem for their children we have 'hummingbird parenting,' in which parents stay nearby but only swoop in when really needed. They let their children face as much risk as the children can handle. There is yet another stage to aspire toward — to prepare children so that they can range as freely as possible, given their age and circumstances. Such children are generally very confident and resilient."





Parenting on the Go

What is the most treasured resource for families with young children? Time. Between housekeeping, shopping, doing chores, and getting everyone to work and school — let alone fitting in family meals, fun activities, and much-needed downtime — being a parent can require major feats of scheduling. While parents don't always have hours to pour over parenting books, they could use short, to-the-point advice on the challenges they confront every day.

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Francis Wardle · July 07, 2015
CSBC
Denver, CO, United States


What does this say about all the limiting rules and regulations that licencing and schools impose on programs: zero tolerance; no running on the playground (yes, this exits!), no playing with sticks because it will lead to bullying; no going up the slide, and so on? I actually observed a group of kindergartners going through a large, 1850s farm, with very safe, expansive open spaces. Their teacher told them they could not run!

Peter Luke Gebhardt · July 07, 2015
Aor International
Dallas, TX, United States


i totally agree. and Magda Gerber, an icon in our early childhood field, whose work with toddlers, taught all of us to allow children to experience risk. Magda paved the way for parents and early childhood staff 'to wait' nearby, and allow children to solve problems on their own, and then to be there, to offer a hand to help them out, when they've exhausted all of their ideas to solve their dilemma.



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